One of the reasons I haven’t had much success with eHarmony so far is because I didn’t find most of the guys physically attractive.
Either that, or they didn’t have pictures altogether.
Anyways, today, I notice this crock of poo on the site about how they actually take looks into consideration when matching people up.
I was seriously mortified by that.
I was like, “So…basically, the short, stocky, bristly haired guys I’ve been paired up with are my match looks-wise? These are the sort of guys that ‘look’ good with me?”
Wow.
I don’t know if I should just go slit my wrists and call it a day.
dear gosh i hope not! but yeah it sucks when you don’t even find most of the guys online physically attractive. it’s like where are the cute men?? oh wait, all attached? heh…
By: jo on July 9, 2009
at 8:08 pm
Haha! When I was on there, few of my matches had pictures. The ones who did never responded! I gave up on that site!! Hopefully, you will find better. My coworker’s daughter found her husband there, which is the only reason I ever signed up!
I think many people on there make a profile but never pay, so they can’t actually contact other members.
Um…do not slit your wrists!
By: saneandsingle on July 9, 2009
at 9:15 pm
don’t take it personally-i had the same EXACT problem. i don’t know, sometimes i think they’re “system” is flawed. even though i’m done with paying for internet dating, when i did, i much preferred match where i could browse any profile i wanted and wasn’t fed profiles that were picked for me.
i only did eharmony for 3 months though, hopefully you’ll find some people worth contacting.
By: Anomylous on July 10, 2009
at 12:57 am
Snap! Some of mine were quite attractive but others were most definitely NOT. I am really not convinced they take looks into consideration.
By: Katya on July 10, 2009
at 9:38 pm
That’s crap. Umm what if there are some people out there who want a partner that is less attractive than them? Or… here’s a crazier idea, what if they’re not looking for someone good looking but for someone they can actually talk to since they are on eharmony and if they were judging people by their appearances all the time, they probably wouldn’t want to talk to some stranger on the internet.
How wrong can a dating site be?
By: girlslashwoman on July 12, 2009
at 7:52 am
Sorry for the second post, but on the same thought, does race come into play? What about age? Who exactly judges who is attractive enough or well matched enough and who isn’t? The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that they really don’t check… that’s just too stupid.
By: girlslashwoman on July 12, 2009
at 7:54 am
girlslashwoman – Actually, I was really surprised by eHarmony’s claim that they take looks into consideration — seeing as they don’t ask you what you’re attracted to. Their whole premise is that they’re matching you up based on this personality questionnaire they’ve done…plus, they take into account race and age that you’ve listed.
I really don’t think they take looks into consideration at all. It’s just something they claim they do, when the reality is, they probably just send you matches to whoever happens to match your criteria (read: age and race that you’ve specified preferring).
Otherwise, that’s pretty much it.
By: ecrivain on July 12, 2009
at 9:50 pm
You know what, the more I think about it… I don’t think they do either. Who would pay someone to sit there and judge how attractive someone is, of course taking in the fact that the person may be biased. It just doesn’t exist.
By: girlslashwoman on July 19, 2009
at 2:47 am